“Why do we have to listen to our hearts?”
“Because wherever your heart is, that is where you’ll find your treasure”
Paulo Coelho

'Easily Said'

Communication training in the broadest sense

Listening is an art form
The art of listening can make or break communication. When communicating we deal with a message, a sender, and a receiver. We often express ourselves in an unclear or incomplete way. And we wonder why we are so often misunderstood. Or we interpret a message in way that was never intended by the sender. The moment this happens, listening stops. During the training programs and workshops a lot of attention is being given to a variety of exercises that enhance listening skills.

Hidden messages
It seems that every message contains four levels that remain hidden for a large part. Communication problems arise because we are not aware of the profound effect of these levels on our conversations. We try to solve an emotional or relational problem at the level of content. This results in squabbling and fencing with words. When these levels are seen through, we are able to express ourselves clearly. We realize that perhaps our interpretations and assumptions are not always correct.

Old patterns
I work with a system of questioning that helps us to reconnect with the body and that exposes our oldest patterns of behaviour in a short period of time. You come to understand how you get triggered into these, over and over again. You learn how to step out of them. Once a pattern has been seen through, it is free to dissolve itself. The Dialogue that links to t his, shows us how simple clear communication can be. This may cause profound changes, especially when it comes to the way we connect with others.
 
Feedback
Giving and receiving feedback is a hot issue in a lot of companies (as well as in many people’s lives). Feedback is often seen as criticism and therefore as highly personal. For some people giving feedback is even harder than receiving feedback. When the personal patterns of behaviour have been seen through, feedback is no longer a problem. An honest and uninhibited communication arises. The effect is that it rarely hurts another person, even while you say exactly what you want to say. We are then able to give and receive feedback without it being threatening or fearful.

Me or my brain?
A pattern of behaviour consists of a way of thinking, feeling and acting. These are inseparable. Patterns of behaviour are formed in the brain as neurological connections. They stem from early childhood and were formed in response to certain experiences. Often they are no longer appropriate or effective. The brain doesn’t know this and happily continues them. It is important to realize that these patterns were formed by the brain, outside of our awareness. The sense of guilt that so many are plagued by has everything to do with this. We think we are responsible for our own patterns of behaviour and therefore that we do things wrong, or are not good enough. The dissolution of old patterns is often accompanied by the disappearance of feelings of shame and guilt.

Results:

These programs will support you in:

    • The resolution of old behavioral patterns
    • Effective listening- and discussion skills
    • Giving and receiving of feedback
    • Knowing what to say and how to say it, regardless of the situation—with tact, honesty and finesse
    • Giving a presentation or facilitating a group process, especially in the face of difficult or critical questions
    • Acquiring a sense of balance and peace in relationships
    • Personal and professional growth
    • Becoming clear in what you want, where you want to go and how you are going to do it


"I've been in the communications business all my life but I've rarely if ever experienced a truly honest process that effectively enables (and empowers) people to look, listen and properly hear another person speak their truth... and to feel what they really mean and want to express - and then be able to express my truth back to  them with profound feeling.  
A truly wonderful gift that helps people say what they mean... and hear the other person's truth without antagonism, deflection or game-playing... a deeply life-enhancing experience - thank you Janaki!"
Michael A Vanderosen
(Programme Development - Angsbacka Centre for Sustainable Living, Sweden)